Desirae+Morris+Parents+vs+Children

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 * //__ 5/15/2014 __//**
 * //__ Parents VS. Children __//**
 * //__ By: Desirae Morris __//**

= = ==There are many reasons why parents and kids fight but I’m only going to talk about three of them, and the pros and cons on these three. One is because the kid is wanting there way, two the kid is doing the right thing and the parent don’t want them to, and the third one is just because nothing else to do.== = =

= = The first one is because kids want their way. Reasoning for this is because the parents want them to stay with them and the child wants to do what he/she wants to do such as hang out with friends, drive alone, walk somewhere alone, etc. the positive side about it is that kids need the protection there parents wants to give them. The negative thing about it is kids need the time with there friends alone. In the bible it say’s “a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” The negative reasoning is that children need to spend time with there family to, because there parents wont be here forever and they are who raised you and the children need to have respect for that. = = The second reasoning is the kids are doing right and there parents don’t want them to. Parents don’t understand that kids with respect can be helpful to others that don’t have respect into showing them how nice it is with respect and how they will have more friends. That’s the positive thing now time for negative thing. The people that the kids help they could be really rude to the children when the children try to help. = = The third thing is because they are bored and nothing else to do. The positive thing is they could be playing with each other. The negative reasoning is they could get hurt really bad. = = There are all three reasons with positive and negative things on why parents and their children shouldn’t fight. = = References Bible Gateway, (2014). //Bible Gateway passage: Proverbs 15:1 - English Standard Version//. [online] Available at: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+15%3A1&version=ESV [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. Google.com, (2014). [online] Available at: http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=21&ved=0CAkQFjAAOBQ&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sciencedaily.com%2Freleases%2F2008%2F11%2F081114080912.htm&ei=0pBiU8K4EcmC2AXqu4C4DA&usg=AFQjCNHKVL9zdxJXCtLY_5WyXHAuA9tBcA&sig2=yMpljOuEsI5NOUVx5i6UUQ [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. Kidshealth.org, (2014). //Why Do I Fight With My Parents So Much?//. [online] Available at: http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/Parents/fight.html# [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. Psychologytoday.com, (2014). //Environmental Psychology//. [online] Available at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/environmental-psychology [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. Psychologytoday.com, (2014). //Sleep//. [online] Available at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/sleep [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. Psychologytoday.com, (2014). //Sleep//. [online] Available at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/sleep [Accessed 22 May. 2014]. = =

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= = it's a good thing, too — kids need this kind of protection and assistance because they aren't mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own. = = The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teen has a right to certain opinions and an identity that may be different from theirs = = http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/Parents/fight.html# **How to Handle Power**
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Stop being part of the power struggle. It takes two to have a power struggle. It takes two to argue. Make a firm commitment to yourself that you will no longer engage in arguments and lengthy explanations. State your expectations clearly and firmly and walk away. Tell your child exactly what you want him to do, when he must do it, and what happens if he does not. Then walk away

Non-arguers will usually leave it at that. The parent says "no" twice and that's the end of the conversation. Perhaps the disappointed youngster will become sulky for a while but he or she is able to let the conversation go. True arguers, on the other hand, do not let their parents off the hook so easily. Even after the parent has said "no" twice, the arguing youngster will persevere saying something in his own way that translates into: "Why not? I can address all of your concerns. Just give me a chance. Your thinking is mistaken. There really is no difficulty at all. Let me show you how my plan can work out for the best." This child has all the bases covered; he knocks down your defenses one by one. He has an answer for everything until, finally, in the end, when you are just plain worn down by the conversation, you agree to do it his way.

Children learn how to handle conflicts and disagreements from their parents. When they see their parents being disrespectful, harsh and cruel to each other, they learn that it is OK to disrespect. They often interpret this behavior that the only way to disagree is to yell and scream at each other.

=== [|Proverbs 15:1] ESV / 138 helpful votes === A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. || = cons =

Exposure to an [|environment] of anger does not inure babies to anger; arguments, however, familiar, do not seem to fade into a normal, acceptable background.

 [|sleeping] infants can be seen to respond to an angry tone of voice.

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<span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0); vertical-align: baseline;">Children who see their parents bickering are at an increased risk of psychiatric problems and impaired brain development.

<span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0); vertical-align: baseline;">Lead researcher Dr Nicholas Walsh, of the University of East Anglia, said: "These findings are important because exposure to adversities in childhood and adolescence is the biggest risk factor for later psychiatric disease <span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);">www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk.../young-**children**-who-see-parents-3162773

<span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);">Children who become very upset when their parents fight are more likely to develop psychological problems. But little is known about what happens beyond these behavioral reactions in terms of children's biological responses. A new study has found that children who are very distressed when their parents fight also have higher levels of cortisol, a stress hormone.
 * <span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0);">**emotional**, when they do things to scare, worry or upset you. They might drive badly when you're in the car, follow you, break things, or come into your house when you don't want them to
 * <span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0); font-family: arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif; font-size: 12px;">Children may see or hear violence, be beaten, or they may be hurt during a violent outburst. They may be harmed as a way of 'getting at' the other adult. A child's needs may be neglected because family life is so disrupted
 * <span style="background-color: rgba(255,255,255,0); font-family: arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif; font-size: 12px; vertical-align: baseline;">When children in two-parent homes are exposed to their parents’ frequent, intense conflicts, it affects a part of their stress response called respiratory sinus arrhythmia (RSA). This is a measure of how the heart rate synchs with breathing. It is part of the stress response that has been linked to our ability to regulate emotions and attention, which is key for cognitive development.

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